Confession: I never want to get out of bed in the morning. Not when it’s the first day of vacation, not when I smell breakfast in the other room, not for any reason, really.
I have no excuses or theories about why — that’s just the way it is.
I may go to bed feeling super positive at night, but without fail, in the morning I feel so mad at the world that I do not want to get up.
And if you think that sounds bad, would you believe me if I told you that it used to be a lot worse? I used to lay there for sometimes more than an hour in the morning just stewing… totally at war with myself over what I should be thinking. or feeling, or doing differently.
I should be getting up at 4:30 like so-and-so.
I should be more motivated.
I should have gotten so much done by now.
All those shoulds left me feeling defeated and guilty in the very first hour of my day… but something has changed since those dark days: My thoughts have shifted. My mindset has changed.
While I still never want to get out of bed or feel like getting out of bed in the morning, I’ve stopped caring about all the “shoulds.” In fact, I’ve totally shut out the shoulds. I don’t care what anyone else is doing or has been doing since 4:30; I do things my way now. If I feel like doing work in bed, I’m going to. If I feel like reading my book in bed instead of out on the porch with the fancy cup of tea, I will.
What I’ve learned from building multiple successful businesses online — even while spending a lot of time in bed! — is that there is no one right way to get things done. You don’t have to do all the things everyone else is doing to be successful… especially if you hate it and it doesn’t make you feel true to yourself.
Here’s a hilarious-because-it’s-true video from emotional healing coach (and comedian!!) JP Sears to show you what can happen when we blindly follow what other people are doing — or what they want us to do!
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Now… that doesn’t mean you never have to just suck it up and do things you don’t like, but my point here is that you can break loads of other people’s rules and still be successful. My own success has absolutely proven that, so I want to empower you in your own life by saying that there’s no reason you can’t find your version of success by getting things done in a way that works for you.
You gotta LOVE yourself where you are and work with what you’ve got.
Find something that works for you and shut out the shoulds.
What “shoulds” are you shutting out? How are you meeting yourself where you are to find success in your own way? Share in the comments!!