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How to Get Results Faster by Ignoring Pretty Much Everyone


Updated: January 23, 2017

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  1. Man alive, this really resonated with me. I’ve been plagued by self-doubt lately and I think I’ve probably spent more time looking for advice and encouragement than actually working on action items. I needed to read this today! Thanks!

  2. Great article! I literally just posted asking for encouragement and advice yesterday because of my lack of confidence to commit and fear of failure after taking a step of faith. No one can make decisions for me. I just need to move forward!

  3. This is exactly what I needed to hear this week. It’s confirmation of what I’ve already been thinking! As much as I love the Facebook groups you’ve created for those of us who have gone through the course, I’ve realized that I need to pay less attention to them for a while so that I stop comparing myself to what others are doing and just do what I need to do to run my business! Not that I’m going to disappear from the groups completely because — let’s face it — it’s an amazing group of people! 🙂

  4. I actually just shut down my Facebook because of this problem! I spent way too much time looking at others and feeling down about myself. When in reality usually people are struggling just the same but only put the best parts of themselves out there lol (myself included). I just keep telling myself if I ignore all the distractions and focus on what I need to do, there’s no way that I can fail!!

  5. YES. I compare myself to YOU all the time, and I have convinced myself that you are simply one of those superwomen out there (usually younger than I) whose achievements I could never, ever match. So then I just have to remind myself that we don’t necessarily have the same goals, I am not trying to build a 7-figure business, nor am I wired to be a super high-achiever. There will always be someone who is more successful, smarter, richer, has a nicer car, better hair, better everything. Self-acceptance is the way. The only way.

  6. This was such a great read. Although I now have my business established, I still experience moments of self-doubt. It’s usually when I compare myself to someone who has been in the game for much longer than I have. Those kinds of comparisons can really bring you down. As you said, checking out the competition isn’t always helpful! My time is better spent nurturing and growing my own business.

  7. Great article. It’s pretty funny when someone once told me to “keep your chin up”.
    All I could think about was WHY? especially when I need to keep it down and concentrate.

  8. Yup! Needed to hear this today. I have been fighting this war with myself for several weeks now. Do I leave FB alone and get stuff done for myself or do I continue to cheer everyone else on? I still am wondering which one of me will win. I hope it will be my success choosing side!

    1. I struggle with that too, Sue! Facebook can get distracting, and at times it’s best to turn off those notifications and concentrate on your work. 🙂

  9. Absolutely, comparison can be so depressing! Occasionally it can be motivational, but I think you’re right that it’s more often a dangerous distraction.

    1. It really is depressing. We start looking at our shortcomings, and then we lose motivation to keep going. 🙁

    2. Occasionally it can be motivational.

      We must be aware of our own mindset & what it us that draws us in. If I need to hear stories to encourage n spur me on, then that's what I'm going to do. If I'm just putting off the inevitable, then I need to recognize it & redirect my focus where it is most effective!

      Frankly, this article AND the comments herein have been VERY encouraging to me. It's ok to be at whatever point one is at, BUT discovering where & when procrastination is the villain is crucial to moving forward.

        1. THE FOLLOWING IS FROM A FB GROUP I STUMBLED UPON RECENTLY.

          HEADING: Just write. Stop judging it. Just get it out. That’s it for now. That is what you need to do.

          POST: One of my college professors used to say "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly". I didn't understand that for years because I didn't do anything poorly; I couldn't do anything poorly – I had to do everything perfectly.

          But when that 2 minutes seems exhausting, brushing your teeth for 30 seconds is better than not brushing them at all! Doing 10 minutes of yoga is better than 10 minutes of sitting when 30 minutes of cardio sounds impossible.

          Changing my clothes is good when a whole shower is otherwise impossible. Standing on the porch for a few minutes is worth it after being in the house for three straight days because I don't have the energy to go anywhere.

          Anything worth doing is worth 'doing poorly' because doing it poorly is better than not doing it.

          •○•○•○•○•○•

          I LOVE IT! Clearly a PERCEPTION, but that's what our actions are often based on so….. USE it to an advantage! Right? 😝

  10. Definitely been right there with you. When I first started freelance writing, I was there all the time – mostly scrolling through Pinterest then – to see other people’s successes. And now that I’ve started a blog fairly recently, I’m there on Facebook scouring for “help.”

    I’ve changed my mindset about it all very recently. I’m doing the 80-20 rule, but I’m doing it opposite of what most people do. Most people spend 20% of their time writing or working on whatever craft it is they do and 80% of their time marketing it and on other business tasks. I’m doing the opposite – devoting 80% of my time to my craft, and 20% to the business side of things. It’s been working out pretty well.

    Now about the only time I use social media is when I’m looking for 2nd opinions on something very specific. Like “which photo do you think would go better” or “Which turn of phrase sounds better for such and such situation” and I leave it at that. No more getting lost in the social media whirlwind.

  11. …and the next time you post all my business on one of your blogs, the least you can do is give a gal a heads-up! lol

    Awesome post!

  12. I totally get it Caitlin. There is a certain course I am supposed to be working on and I see all the success stories. Many people are doing so well and at the same time I see many people who are saying the course is so hard and demanding. That is a good thing though as it makes the people actually learn something. I do not think it serves anyone to just let people slide through. Yet when I read the stories of how hard the course is I just tell myself I will get started tomorrow as if maybe I will be more ready then. I know I am smart. I know I have the skills to get it done. I have the Eagle Eye. I studied English at USC. I can build websites and market myself. I hate working for The Man. I have another secret weapon I can unleash when I finish the course. So what am I waiting for? Time to put my head down and stopping worrying about what the others think or say. Time to just do this!

  13. Thanks for the reminder. It is tremendous to know I am not the only person with those crazy thoughts of comparison. Thanks for the post.Starting new careers are always hard. and will take planning and one step at a time. Thanks needed the encouragement

  14. I am definitely in that area of fear right now. Your article spoke to me in a personal way. Only difference is I stay off Facebook. I would love to get others feedback and inspirational quotes. But like you Caitlin, I could lose myself for hours worrying, doubting and craving that one comment that will solve every insecurity I have about the success I want so bad I can taste it. I am my worst enemy when it comes to self doubt and getting out of my comfort zone. But I am pushing myself to continue. I will get success, with the help of your course. Thanks for your inspiring story.

  15. I needed to read this right now. I literally just wrote a Twitter thread on this exact topic, being frozen by other people’s successes. Thanks, Caitlin.

    1. So glad you enjoyed the post! We know what we should do, but it’s always great to have these motivational reminders. 🙂

  16. I have a trick I use when I find myself comparing. I remember that the only person I’m allowed to compare myself to is myself. Am I, personally, better than yesterday or last year or the previous decade? Why, yes I am! And how did I, personally, get from there to here? Now? Aahhh. Right. I kept moving and improving myself. Not someone else. Just me.

  17. ABSOLUTELY!!!! I just had this same conversation with another budding entrepreneur. I research and research and then I hoard all the information I collect. Then I drown in all of the conflicting information and get stuck on where to start. me. Being still, stagnate or whatever only prolongs me getting started and encourages my doubts/fears. I know by nature, I don’t do well in the gray areas of life. I like a template, outline or a play book to help me along. Logically, I know that what works for one may not work for me. I will never know until I step out there. Mistakes are necessary for success. If I don’t make them, how will I know where I need to make improvements or if I have made improvements!!

    1. It can definitely be both a blessing and a curse to have so much information at your fingertips. Make sure your research doesn’t prevent you from taking action! 🙂

  18. Wow – definitely a mind shift. I appreciate your rigorous honesty. Trolling FB for useful information is so time consuming and random. But I wish I had one fellow student as a pen pal for mutual support, still! Can we find out if folks live in our same state? Anyways…

    1. If you’re enrolled in one of the courses, make sure you’re taking advantage of the PA Proofreaders Facebook group. You can definitely reach out to your fellow students there and likely find someone who lives in your state! 🙂

      1. Hi Kristina,

        I’m working my way through Module 4 and would love to joint the PA Proofreaders Facebook group. I tried the icon within the program, with no luck.

        Could you provide me with a link, please?! I sent a support ticket too, no answer.

        Thanks a bunch,
        Martha Mayo

        1. I am so sorry to hear that you’re having such issues getting in the group! An email was just sent to you with directions on how to get into the group. Make sure to search in all your tabs in Gmail as well as the spam folder. Let us know if you don’t get it! 🙂

  19. Wonderful tip today, Caitlyn. I really needed it – yesterday. lol. I had noticed my tendency to stray when I felt overwhelmed with my goals – so I stopped looking at FB, and will only log in after my work is done for the day – if that means I don’t log in then so be it.

    There are a great number of support communities on FB – including yours of course. But I was spending my time going from one writing one to yours to a motivational one – and that’s as bad as just scrolling my news feed, right? lol. Giving myself parameters will enable me to focus on my goals – to be a proofreader, author, copywriter. My goals are not lofty to me – they are attainable. But not without work and focus. Thus no FB during work time. 🙂

    Have a fabulous day all!

  20. This is exactly what I needed today! I’m starting to compare my work to others; but really, my life isn’t theirs. As long as I’m making progress, I don’t need to worry about anyone else’s.

  21. Hi Caitlin! You ask if I’ve been there with you…I’m there right now!😢

    Having trouble getting turned back around, it’s taking way longer than I’d hoped. Thanks for your help in these emails.

    ~KK Schwendiman

  22. I finally made the transition from the commute to contract work-from-home. My next goal is to detach myself from the pseudo certainty of paycheck to paycheck living. A mindset adjustment is what the doctor ordered. I applaud your article.

  23. We’re told to “keep our chin up” which covers our mental motivation. You’re really saying “keep your nose too the grindstone” which means just work, work, work! All that work could one day lead to money for a nose job! I’m needing new teeth, and I plan to get them with transcript proofreading!

  24. I've quit looking at both instagram and Facebook, and recently scrolled through one of them to see someone succeeding at their own business and started questioning myself. Thank you for the reminder and practical advice!

    The main thing that has stuck so far when I start procrastinating is "just show up today and keep showing up".

    Thanks again for the road you've paved for me and so many others!

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